Tarot After a Breakup: What I'll Read For You (and What I Won't)
- Gina Lawrence
- Jun 18
- 4 min read
A breakup undoes your sense of time. One week you're folded into someone's life; the next you're standing in a kitchen that's gone too quiet, rereading their last text, trying to understand what just happened to you. It's one of the most common reasons people come to me for a reading — and one of the moments tarot is genuinely most useful.
But before we sit down together, there's something I want to be clear about, because it shapes everything I do.
I won't read cards about getting your ex back
I get some version of this often: Will they come back? How do I make them want me again? Can you do something to bring them back to me?
I understand the impulse. When you're in pain, control feels like relief. But I don't do tarot readings about getting your ex back.
Here's why. We have free will — and so do the people we love. Magic can do a great deal, but it can't and shouldn't be used to steer someone else's choices. I'm not saying that to moralize. It's simply the line I've drawn around my practice. Trying to pull someone back through energy or intention isn't healing; it keeps you tethered to a story that has already changed. Tarot isn't for that anyways.
I also believe most breakups happen for a reason — even when that reason isn't visible yet, even when it's unfair, even when you didn't choose it. My work isn't to reverse what happened. It's to help you understand it and find your footing again. A tarot reading about the breakup can still help though.
What a tarot reading can actually do for a breakup
When I read for someone after a breakup, the focus is on you. Not the ex. Not what they're thinking, not whether they regret it. You.
A breakup tarot reading can help you:
understand what actually went wrong, underneath the surface story
see the patterns you carry into relationships — the ones worth keeping and the ones worth retiring
name what you're still holding, so you can begin to set it down
get a clear sense of what moving forward could look like
Tarot won't tell you whether they'll text you back. It gives you language for what you're living through, and a map for where you go next.
If you're in the thick of it and want somewhere to start, my text message breakup reading is built for exactly this. You send me what's going on, and I read for you over text — insight you can return to and reread when the 2 a.m. spiral hits. It's a grounded, accessible way to start your healing.
Why I pair tarot with Reiki for getting over your ex
Heartbreak doesn't only live in your thoughts. It lives in your body — the tight chest, the missing appetite, the nervous system stuck on high alert, scanning for them everywhere.
That's why, for breakups, I often suggest pairing tarot with Reiki. The tarot brings clarity and understanding. The Reiki works on the energetic and nervous-system layer, loosening the attachment that's lodged in the body — the felt sense that won't release just because your mind has decided to move on.
People sometimes ask me to erase the other person from their mind completely. I can't do that, and I wouldn't want to. They mattered. What we can do is loosen their grip, so the attachment stops running you and you start to feel like yourself again.
My 60-minute tarot + Reiki session over Zoom is the deeper version of this work. We use the cards to understand where you are and where you're headed, then move into Reiki to release what you're carrying energetically. My intention for every session is simple: that you leave lighter, clearer, and more like yourself than when we started.
What a breakup can make room for
Sometimes a breakup is a wound to tend. And sometimes — when you're honest with yourself — it's the thing that finally cracks your life open enough to rebuild it.
I know this one personally. Three years ago, after my divorce, I left the United States and came to Mysore, India. The end of that marriage made room for a question I'd been avoiding: what would my life look like if I actually built it around what I wanted? I'm still answering that question. But I wouldn't be here — this life, this work, this version of me — without that ending.
That's the kind of transformation tarot can support when you're ready for it. Not a single reading, but a real container for change.
That's what Nurture Your Magic, my three-month mentorship, is for. It's for people who aren't only trying to survive the breakup, but who feel the pull to reshape their lives because of it. Over three months, we work with tarot, energy, and grounded coaching to help you understand where you've been, release what's finished, and build toward what's next. It's the most in-depth work I offer, and it's for those who are serious about the rebuild.
If you're in it right now
Whatever you choose — a single text reading, a session, or three months of deeper work — you don't have to perform being fine. You don't have to have closure figured out. You only have to be willing to look at what's true and take the next honest step.
When you're ready, I'm here.
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